How To Get Over a Breakup in 3 Simple Steps

How do you get over a breakup? What is the quickest and easiest way to get over a breakup?

In this article, I’m going to give you a simple 3 step process you can use to get over a breakup so you can feel peace and happiness in your life again.

So when you’re going through a breakup you experience a lot of painful feelings like grief, anger, and fear. 

And there’s also a feeling of separation and isolation. This can often feel very disorienting. 

Suddenly there’s a huge part of your life missing. It’s just gone.

MRI studies have shown that the pain we experience after a breakup is indistinguishable from a physical injury.

The same areas in the brain light up on an MRI when you're going through a breakup  as they do when you experience physical pain. And often our first reaction to all this pain and disorientation is to numb the pain  and distract ourselves from what we’re experiencing.

And we have many ways of doing this including using food, alcohol, and rebound relationships. And another way we typically deal with these feelings is to stuff down or suppress them.

But these coping mechanisms are like taking a pain killer when you have a broken bone. It might numb the pain temporarily, but doesn’t address the actual problem.

Step 1: Let Go of Your Post Breakup Feelings

So this brings us to the first step in my 3 step process to getting over a breakup and that is to process and release your thoughts and feelings about your breakup. 

The truth is, we all have a natural ability to let go of any painful feeling on the spot. But most of us are not aware that we can do this. 

That’s why we often engage in ineffective and self-destructive behaviors after a breakup. We’re simply not aware of any other options for dealing with these painful feelings. 

But letting go is something that can be learned, developed and strengthened just like a muscle or a skill. And that’s a big part of what you’ll get with the breakup healing system online course. 

When you let go of your post breakup emotions, you will find immediate and lasting relief from the pain.  You will go from feeling grief, fear, and anger to feeling peace and happiness.

And it doesn’t have to take a lot of time. 

When I first started letting go, it took me only 3 days to go from feeling helpless and hopeless to feeling ecstatic joy and unconditional love. And my life changed very rapidly in a positive way after that. 

So if you want to try letting go to get over your breakup, I’ve created a free 4-part mini course that shows you the basics to help you get started.

In this course I start by showing you how to let go, and then we’ll do three different exercises that will bring you immediate relief from the pain of your breakup. 

Click here to sign up for this free course now and start letting go of your post-breakup feelings so you can feel peace and happiness again.

Step 2: Get Clear on What You Really Want in Life

So step number 1 is to let go of your post-breakup feelings. Step number 2 is to get clear on what you really want in life.

So one of the best ways to get over someone is to replace them with something else. And while that could be a new relationship, it doesn’t have to be. 

It could be focusing on a new hobby, starting a new diet and exercise routine, or making a big career move. 

So one of the biggest reasons why people don’t get what they want in life, is because they don’t KNOW what they want.

We all have these vague ideas about how we want our life to look. But that’s all they are - vague ideas.

What I recommend you do is first decide what you want and then get clear on what that will look like once achieved.

For instance, let’s say you want a new relationship, what does that relationship actually look like, sound like, or feel like?

What are the qualities of your ideal partner and ideal relationship?

What kinds of activities do you do with your partner? 

Getting clear on what you want helps you to stay focused on it and also helps you say “no” to things that aren’t going to help you achieve that goal.

Inside the premium version of The Breakup Healing System there are several processes designed to help you get clear on what you want.

The first process is designed to help you decide on what you really want - what you really want to go after.

And this process involves bringing up desires that you have and letting them go.

The reason why you want to let them go is that your true desires will keep coming up. Those are the ones to work on achieving.

But there are so many other things we want in life that won’t actually bring us lasting happiness and fulfillment.

Often these desires are instilled in us by someone else - your parents, your peers and advertisers. And having so many desires rolling around in our heads causes unhappiness.

The feeling of wanting is a feeling of lack or a feeling of inadequacy.

And that’s not a good feeling. 

So as you let go of desires, you will naturally feel more happy and fulfilled. And you will have more mental and emotional energy to go after your own goals in life rather than someone else’s goals.

So if you are serious about getting over your breakup and creating a life that you love, a good first step is to enroll in my free 4-part mini course and see for yourself how it works.

You’ll feel immediate relief from the pain of your breakup

You can decide from there if you want to enroll in the premium version of The Breakup Healing System.

Click here to enroll in this free 4-part mini course now.  

Step 3: Create Your Ideal Life

So once you’re clear on what you want in life, the next step is to create it. And achieving goals requires two things: focus and action. 

You have to stay focused on what you want because we steer ourselves towards whatever we focus on.

One way I like to explain this is using a concept called target fixation 

Target fixation is associated with operating vehicles such as planes, cars, and motorcycles, but I believe it applies to all aspects of our lives.

Target fixation was first observed in World War 2 when dive bombers would sometimes crash into their targets.

The pilots were so focused on the target that they would unconsciously steer their plane into the object they were trying to destroy.

So the pilots were trained to not focus so intensely on their targets so they wouldn’t crash into them. 

And I think this presents some valuable lessons for achieving goals in life.

The first lesson is to stop focusing on what you don’t want. 

Especially after a breakup it's easy to stay focused on the negative aspects of your past relationship or your ex-partner. 

And many people stay fixated on this and end up repeating the same bad relationship over and over again with different people because they can’t shift their focus.

So a big part of what I teach in the breakup healing system is letting go of your inner resistance to what you don’t want. 

The famous psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung famously said “What you resist, persists.”

If you don’t let go of that inner resistance to what happened in the past, you’re very likely to see it appear again in your life.

But if you release that inner resistance and allow the past to be as it is, then you are free from the past and you won’t see it appear in your life again. 

The good news is that target fixation works both ways. If you stay focused on what you want, you will steer yourself towards that as well.

In the premium version of The Breakup Healing System there are several processes designed to help you achieve whatever you want in life.

One of the most important processes is letting go of any feelings of “I can’t” or “I don’t deserve it” or “I’m not good enough”

Feelings like this often prevent us from achieving goals. Once you let go of these thoughts or beliefs, anything is possible. 

We all have far more power to change our life than we think. There are numerous examples in history of people who overcame tremendous limitations to achieve great things in life.

And you can do the same thing. The only barrier is your thoughts and feelings to the contrary.

And the good news is that you can release these thoughts and feelings so they no longer limit you in life.

And you might not believe me, right now and that’s ok. You don’t have to believe me. You can try letting go for yourself right now for free. 

If you can let go of feelings like grief, anger or fear, then you can also let go of limiting thoughts and beliefs that are preventing you from achieving whatever you want in life.

Letting go is letting go. And the more you let go, the better you get at it. And the more peace and happiness you’ll feel in life. 

I’ve been practicing what I teach in The Breakup Healing System for 10 years now and my everyday experience is that of complete satisfaction and unconditional happiness and love.

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, then what I recommend is that you enroll in the Free Breakup Healing System Mini Course.

You can try letting go for yourself and see if it’s something you want to explore in greater detail. 

Click Here to enroll in the free 4-part mini course now.

Sign up now and start letting go so you can get over your breakup and feel peace and happiness again. 

So what challenges are you faced with in your life right now?

What would you like to create in your life? What are your goals?

Comment down below and I’ll respond with my best advice.